Thursday, November 1, 2012

Where's Your Head At?


It is literally a game-changer. It's the difference between achieving success and standing in the way of your success.

I've been reading and learning various things about the power of mindset recently, including this great article from Metabolic Effect, as well as a book by Carol Dweck, appropriately titled "Mindset: The New Psychology of Success".  It had been in my reading queue for quite a while, along with a few other influential business books, and I'm really glad to have finally started it.  It talks about how a person's mindset positively or negatively affects their success.  Sounds logical, right?  Sometimes it's easier said than done though.  I'm only a few chapters in but so far it's been a great read.

My bedside reading queue.

According to Dweck, there are two mindsets:
  • "fixed mindset" - believing that your intrinsic qualities are set in stone... you either have it or you don't.
  • "growth mindset" - believing that your abilities can be developed with effort, time and perseverance... a person's true potential is unknown.
One of my favorite excerpts from the book states:

"Believing that your qualities are carved in stone - the fixed mindset - creates an urgency to prove yourself over and over.  On the contrary, the belief that qualities can be developed - the growth mindset - creates a passion for learning.

  • Why waste time proving over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better?  
  • Why hide deficiencies instead of overcoming them? 
  • Why look for friends/partners who will just boost your self-esteem instead of ones who will challenge you to grow?  
  • And why seek out the tried and true, instead of experiences that will stretch you?

The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it, even (or especially) when it's not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset."

Whether we're talking personal, professional, weight loss, relationships, parenting, etc... a growth mindset can help you see things in a more positive light and without judgment.

That's not to say that you can never be in a bad mood and you should always put on your happy face, complete with rose-colored glasses.  Bad moods and crappy days happen to the best of us.  Rather, people who have a growth mindset won't dwell on negativity or have a "woe is me" attitude. They'll look for ways to move past it and have a better outcome next time.  Those with a fixed mindset will use setbacks as a green light for making excuses and placing blame on the world. Attitude is a decision.

Success is based on going beyond simply thinking positively though... as the book explains, you also need to have concrete steps in place to carry it out.  The growth mindset is rooted in change, it's not about being stagnant... what steps can you take to improve upon/learn from a situation in order to be successful?

This week's playlist theme (albeit, a bit late) is inspired by the principle of getting your mind right and not being such a "brown salad poopy pants" sad sack... after all, life is wayyy too short for that.  It's a little heavy on the dance & hip hop but I'll balance that out with next week's playlist... :)
Happy listening!

MM #8 - "Where's Your Head At??"

  1. The Airborne Toxic Event - Changing
  2. B.o.B - So Good
  3. Lily Allen - Smile (Version Revisited) [Mark Ronson Remix]
  4. Gorillaz - Feel Good, Inc
  5. Republica - Ready To Go (US Mix)
  6. No Doubt - New
  7. Basement Jaxx - Where's Your Head At
  8. Benassi Bros - Feel Alive
  9. Fatboy Slim - Wonderful Night (Radio Edit)
  10. Common - Universal Mind Control
  11. LL Cool J - Headstrong
  12. Black Sheep - The Choice is Yours
  13. Royksopp - Happy Up Here
  14. Kanye West - Good Life

Oh and Happy (belated) Halloween from my little monkey and banana!
[My cutie pie twin nieces' 1st Halloween :) ]

What are your thoughts on the growth mindset vs fixed mindset?  Have you ever experienced an "a-ha" moment when it came to changing your mindset regarding a situation?

1 comment:

  1. This is so true! Such a great post - and perfect timing, too! I can always use a reminder to be in the growing mindset : )